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How Emotionally Immature People Can Impact Our Relationship with God (Emotionally Immature People -Part 4)

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When Confronting Others, How Do You Measure “Success”?

When confronting others, how do you measure “success”?

  • An apology
  • Validation
  • A restored relationship

Or do you say, Aliene, I don’t confront others; instead, I push my emotions down and keep pretending. I get you. Because for many years, that was me. 

Part of my reluctance to confront was because I reasoned the person’s response was the indicator of how well things went. A false goal can leave us feeling like we failed, producing shame and adding to our rejection. Shame is a painful emotion, and our minds tell our souls  “don’t do that again.”

But through my interviews with Dr. Holly Spotts on emotionally immature people, I discovered that how I handled speaking the truth in love was the measurement – not how a person responded. WOW! This perspective shift gave me the courage to confront someone and tell them they hurt my heart. I stopped pretending and pushing my feelings down and eventually shared the truth with someone about how I was feeling.

It was hard.

I didn’t do it perfectly.

Our relationship is not restored… yet. 

But I stopped hiding. I drew boundaries, and I was vulnerable. And without vulnerability, there is no real intimacy – no healing or wholeness inside the relationships we seek. 

To hear more about this perspective shift on confrontation and three other insights I learned from our series on emotionally immature people with Dr. Holly Spotts, listen to today’s message and let’s grow together.

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Dr. Holly Spotts, our guest today, is a clinical psychologist and owner of Full Cup Wellness. Follow her on Instagram for wonderful and insightful content to tend to your heart. Or check out her website.

Lindsey C. Gibson, coined the term emotionally immature people, and has written several books on this topic including, “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self Involved Parents”

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Checking in with God is True Self-Care (Emotionally Immature People – Part 3)

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Tending to Your Heart God’s Way

If you have been listening to our past episodes on emotionally immature people and how they impact your life, you might think, where is a good place to start to heal?

The roadmap to recovery begins by trading the pushing down of heavy emotions, for processing those emotions with God. The problem is, if you have been with an emotionally immature person, you have neglected your feelings to manage theirs for so long —

-you don’t even know where to begin

-it’s a challenge to find words to describe your emotions

-your heart might feel numb

-you don’t trust your feelings at all 

And you might even say, didn’t the Bible tell me my feelings could not be trusted? The truth is all your feelings, including anger, are like an engine light to your soul, calling you to come to the Father and find the truth so you can gain traction to move on. If you don’t believe me, open up the Bible to the book of Psalms or Jeremiah, and you’ll see God’s saints pouring their hearts out to God, not hiding how they feel.

And when you bring your emotions to God instead of burying them…

-you begin to awaken your heart

-you can communicate your needs more effectively with others and God

-you can respond vs. react to the demands of others, so that you can live with God at the center


Pausing to process with God is what Dr. Holly Spotts calls checking-in vs checking out. In today’s message, Dr. Holly Spotts is going to give us a step-by-step guide to check-in with God, find truth and live treasured. 

It’s time to tell your heart to beat again. Listen to today’s message and begin your journey.

▶️Watch today’s teaching message on our YouTube channel and be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss out!

Dr. Holly Spotts, our guest today, is a clinical psychologist and owner of Full Cup Wellness. Follow her on Instagram for wonderful and insightful content to tend to your heart. Or check out her website.

Lindsey C. Gibson, coined the term emotionally immature people, and has written several books on this topic including, “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self Involved Parents” 

Sign up for a FREE weekly devotion from Aliene: https://treasuredministries.com 

Join the Treasured Tribe and discover the nourish method – our grace-based daily process to transform your life through the power of God’s Word; connect with Aliene on weekly zoom calls, gain access to all Treasured Tribe Bible Studies, our private online social platform, app, digital Nourish Notebook, and much more. To learn more, click here: https://treasuredtribe.com

Want to make a difference? Here are three ways you can help our ministry grow at no cost to you: 

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The Emotionally Immature Parent or Spouse (Emotionally Immature People – Part 2)

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The Impact of An Emotionally Immature Person with Dr. Holly Spotts

I’ve got an important question for you. Do you pray boldly for others, but when it comes to asking God for your needs, you are shy, even though our Lord repeatedly invites us in his Word to come to him to ask for what we need? (Luke 11:11-13) Having an emotionally immature parent could be why you are timid about taking YOUR needs to God.   

Children of emotionally immature parents often are self-reliant codependents and extreme caretakers. As they neglect their needs, sadly, codependents might even spiritualize their actions, reasoning they are putting others first – and then wonder why they are so resentful when our Lord said we would experience joy in serving him and others. 

The truth is your past created a pattern of putting a parent, not the Lord, in the center of your life. Because that person held a “role,” your childhood mind reasoned that they were right, and your needs were wrong. And so you became used to ignoring your needs and brought this coping pattern into your relationship with your Abba Father, God Almighty. 

But the Lord invites you to leave that pattern, put Him at the center, and bring your needs to Him in prayer! As you rely on the Lord and rest in his love, you can love others as He intended.  

When someone uses their family role to demand that you center your life around theirs, it’s not biblical; it’s manipulation. Recognizing this is crucial, especially if you have codependent tendencies, because God wants you to put him first, and no other person can claim that role.

Want more? Listen to today’s message and get ready to find traction for a new direction as Dr. Holly Spotts gives insight into the impact of emotionally immature parents or spouses. Here’s to your NEW pattern of putting God in the center to live and love as He intended.

▶️Watch today’s teaching message on our YouTube channel and be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss out!

Dr. Holly Spotts, our guest today, is a clinical psychologist and owner of Full Cup Wellness. Follow her on Instagram for wonderful and insightful content to tend to your heart. Or check out her website.

Lindsey C. Gibson, coined the term emotionally immature people, and has written several books on this topic including, “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self Involved Parents”

Sign up for a FREE weekly devotion from Aliene: https://treasuredministries.com 

Join the Treasured Tribe and discover the nourish method – our grace-based daily process to transform your life through the power of God’s Word; connect with Aliene on weekly zoom calls, gain access to all Treasured Tribe Bible Studies, our private online social platform, app, digital Nourish Notebook, and much more. To learn more, click here: https://treasuredtribe.com

Want to make a difference? Here are three ways you can help our ministry grow at no cost to you: 

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What is An Emotionally Immature Person? (Emotionally Immature People – Part 1)

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The Impact of Emotionally Immature People with Dr. Holly Spotts

Walking on eggshells around others pushes you to hide who God created you to be. Sometimes this pressure to pretend is caused by an emotionally immature person demanding that you orbit your life around theirs. And when this happens…

You can trade self-compassion for self-deprecation

Dysfunctional coping patterns emerge, including codependency 

Identifying your unique God-given identity is difficult to grasp

But this is not God’s Way. He wants to be first in your life; the real you will shine out of that relationship. Freedom to come out of hiding to live as God intended begins with awareness of emotionally immature people. For these reasons, I’ve invited clinical psychologist Dr. Holly Spotts of Full Cup Wellness to educate us on emotionally immature people. 

In today’s message, here is what you’ll discover:

  • What an emotionally immature person is, and why this matters.
  • How awareness can awaken your heart to become who God created you to be.
  • How to spot an emotionally immature person and why they might draw you into an unhealthy relationship.


Emotionally immature people often blame you for being selfish when your life does not orbit their world. It’s time to put God back in the center and live with the joy that flows from putting Him first and becoming who He created you to be. So listen to today’s message and let your light shine.

▶️Watch today’s teaching message on our YouTube channel and be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss out!

Dr. Holly Spotts, our guest today, is a clinical psychologist and owner of Full Cup Wellness. Follow her on Instagram for wonderful and insightful content to tend to your heart. Or check out her website.

Lindsey C. Gibson, coined the term emotionally immature people, and has written several books on this topic including, “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self Involved Parents.”

Sign up for a FREE weekly devotion from Aliene: https://treasuredministries.com 


Join the Treasured Tribe and discover the nourish method – our grace-based daily process to transform your life through the power of God’s Word; connect with Aliene on weekly zoom calls, gain access to all Treasured Tribe Bible Studies, our private online social platform, app, digital Nourish Notebook, and much more. To learn more, click here: https://treasuredtribe.com

Want to make a difference? Here are three ways you can help our ministry grow at no cost to you: 

1. Subscribe to our podcast. 

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Reasoning Will Wear You Out

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What Does the Bible Say About Making Decisions?

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Are you in the middle of making a significant decision, worn out from reasoning but worried about making the right decision? Today’s message is just for you. 

Life can become confusing and blurry when we navigate our lives using people and things outside of us. As codependents, we have relied on people and our own reasoning and as a result became weary, worn out, and often headed in the wrong direction. But when we rest under God’s reign, everything changes. This new way of living happens through a relationship with God, not religion. 

I am in awe of football quarterbacks. Not because of how far they can throw that leather ball with just the right spin to sail through the air into the endzone, but because they can make split-second decisions while facing muscled sack-hungry men plowing toward them. If I were in their shoes, I would shout “excuse me—wait a minute—everyone stop—I need to think. Can we stop playing? I don’t want to make a mistake!” We all know what the sad result of that would be.

But quarterbacks have a different strategy. They take a quick look at their coach before a play and find decisive direction from their seasoned leader’s overall perspective, a perspective that is impossible for them to possess in their nearby position on the field. 

In the game of life in our broken world, as we face epic battles, like quarterbacks, we must make many decisions while opposing onslaughts from the enemy, world, and our flesh come our way. When this happens, if you reason and reason, you can get stuck and potentially sacked instead of experiencing the fruit that flows from following the Holy Spirit. 

God wired you for daily reliance.

Reasoning will wear you out! But wise women brave this broken world by redirecting reasoning to rely on the Holy Spirit and find rest through God’s divine direction. Listen into today’s message for more and walk with divine discernment in a new direction.

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Join the Treasured Tribe and discover the Nourish Method – our grace-based daily process to transform your life through the power of God’s Word; connect with Aliene on weekly zoom calls, gain access to all Treasured Tribe Bible Studies, our private online social platform, app, digital Nourish Notebook, and much more. To learn more, click here: https://treasuredtribe.com

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How to Handle Toxic People God’s Way (Narcissism – Episode 6)

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How do you handle toxic people like a narcissist, God’s Way? To handle toxic people, we become wise as snakes while at the same time harmless as doves by standing in God’s power to prevail in our purpose. In today’s episode, discover how Godly girl power gives us God-fidence, discernment, and direction to deal with toxic people in God’s Way.

Miss last week’s episode? Catch the replay here!

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How to Recognize a Narcissist with Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D. (Narcissism – Episode 4)

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Setting Boundaries with a Narcissist

We believe it is important for every woman to be aware of the narcissistic personality so that you can set boundaries. For these reasons and in response to your questions, we wanted to interview experts in this field. Don’t miss today’s episode and please share with others! 

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a psychologist, and writer, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her podcast, Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse offers advice on trauma-related issues. Recently she released a workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance, designed to help readers break free from the paralyzing mental fog caused by psychological abuse.

Ready for more? Below are the links we discussed in today’s video. 

Website: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com 

Podcast: https://breaking-free-from-narc.captivate.fm/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KerryMcAvoyPhD

Workbook and other resources

If you missed last week’s episode of our Narcissism series, you can find catch the replay here!

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A Narcissist’s Target Victim with Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D. (Narcissism – Episode 3)

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What is Victim Shaming?

Whom does a narcissist target? It’s an important question to answer and in today’s episode, we are asking an expert, Dr. Kerry Kerr McAvoy. Often victim shaming or blaming can occur, leaving the person thinking it is their fault, but in today’s episode discover that this is simply not true.

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a psychologist, and writer, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her podcast, Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse offers advice on trauma-related issues. Recently she released a workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist: A Guide to Resolving Cognitive Dissonance, designed to help readers break free from the paralyzing mental fog caused by psychological abuse. 

Ready for more? Below are the links we discussed in today’s video. 

Website: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com 

Podcast: https://breaking-free-from-narc.captivate.fm/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KerryMcAvoyPhD

Workbook and other resources

If you missed episode 1 and 2 of our Narcissism series, you can find them here: Episode 1 and Episode 2

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