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What is My Role Inside of Reconciliation?

Satan delights in using grudges as tools to destroy our lives (2 Corinthians 2:10–11). He works through people to hurt us and put us in a self-imposed prison of unforgiveness (Ephesians 6:11–12; Matthew 18:21–35). Satan will try to use unforgiveness to prevent you from living God’s dream for your life. When we nurse grudges, we play into Satan’s hands, and our influence is wasted instead of used for God’s glory. 

In our fallen world of imperfect people and circumstances, our heart is vulnerable to being hurt by others. Sometimes this hurt can come from the most unlikely places—a trusted friend, a family member, or someone in a leadership position. The ones called to defend and protect us may let us down. The closer the person who offends us, the deeper the hurt. 

Understanding the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation is vital to restoring relationships God’s way. This difference is what we are talking about in today’s podcast.

And discovering this difference matters because your purpose matters.

Let’s further unlock God’s remedy for injustice in our life so we can pour our energy into our purpose.

Nourish Scripture: Genesis 42-45, Ephesians 4:32  5:15-16, Leviticus 6:1-7

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What Does it Mean to Love My Enemies?

Our socialization, or sometimes how our parents modeled “love,” is not always God’s truth about agape love. Women are often raised to believe that loving others is “being nice,” which prevents the biblical agape love God commands. For these reasons, God’s remedy for wounds that requires loving our enemies can be confusing. Oh, how the enemy loves to twist God’s truth!

What is real love? What does it mean to love our enemies? These are important questions. What we believe about love will direct our behavior when we love our enemies. 

When we leave what our parents or the world taught us about love and look to the Father who IS love, we discover how to apply the authentic agape love God commands in his Word. Our effort cannot manufacture authentic agape love for our enemies; it must flow from our maker.

And this is important because agape love is healing and sets the table for genuine reconciliation. God’s kindness – not “niceness” – leads to repentance.

Inside today’s podcast, uncover three common lies about loving our enemies and three truths to replace those lies, so you can live in agape love as God intended. 

Nourish Scripture: Romans 12, Mark 12:29-30

My YouTube Videos on Confrontation:

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Below are links for extra resources I mentioned inside today’s video:

Bold Love by Dr. Dan B. Allender

The Miracle Moment by Nicole Unice

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Why Can’t I Move Forward From This Offense? 

Do you ever wonder why someone who is no longer in your life still has control over you? Does the very mention of their name trigger insecurity, fear, anger, shame, or bitterness? You might have set wise boundaries with this person because they were not safe. They might be out of your life entirely through divorce or death, but you are still bound to them because when someone maintains mental real-estate in your head, they still control you. 

This is because a message is sent into our hearts when we are wounded. And when we don’t deal with the wound God’s way – that message becomes a drumbeat creating a rhythm in our subconscious that impacts our life. 

Until you process the pain with God, you cannot put the past behind you. The triggers remain, and we live out the lies that make their way into our hearts through the wound.

In addition to the lies from the wound that the enemy of your soul can trigger to keep you trapped, there is a relationship between forgiveness and faith that ties you to your offender. 

But your great God is waiting for you to come to him so he can heal you! In today’s podcast, we are talking about how to process your pain with God so you can put the past behind you and live free.

Links mentioned in today’s episode:

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My Podcast with Dr. Doug Weiss 

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Scripture: Matthew 6:11-12, Mark 11:22-24, Luke 17:1-10

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What Does It Mean to Turn the Other Cheek?

When Jesus said in Matthew 5:39, “If someone slaps you on the right cheek, offer the other cheek also.” – what did he mean? At first glance, you might ask yourself, does God want me to be a punching bag and enable more abuse? NO WAY!!! NO WAY! 

Sadly, if we falsely believe this lie, we might feel shame over setting boundaries or standing our ground. In addition, this shame can shut down participation in our part of God’s forgiveness process, keeping us stuck under the enemy’s thumb. But when we see God as our validator and vindicator, we can hold God’s hand and do our work with confidence and courage to move forward. 

Matthew 5:39 is not asking you to be a punching bag; it calls you to pursue justice that restores and find peace to move forward. More in today’s podcast. 

Nourish Scripture: Matthew 5:38-41, Luke 6:27-30, Genesis 42-45

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What Does the Bible Say About Vengeance?

Has a justified tug-a-war taken your joy, focus, and energy? Sometimes you have to let go of the rope to see God make it right. Often this does not seem “fair,” or it can feel like “letting go” is letting go of justice. But nothing is further than the truth.

God loves justice, but he wants you to do it his way, which means releasing your right to retaliate. Wise women let go of the fight to see God make things right.  

What or whom are you fighting to make things fair? Where do you want to “win”? 

In today’s episode, discover how to fight injustice with God’s battle plan as we dive into part four of our summer series, What Does it Mean to Forgive?

The truth is when we try to make things right on our own instead of making room for God’s justice, we can fight God instead of allowing him to fight for us. Letting go of your right to retaliate does not mean you are letting go of justice, although it can feel that way. But when we fight with forgiveness, God fights for us, and we are free. Courage to surrender to God’s battle plan of forgiveness comes by gaining His perspective through worship, prayer, and vision.   

It’s time to sow into the solution by resting under God’s strategy and see victory. 

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Scripture for this week: Romans 12:17-19, Ephesians 6:10-12, Joshua 5:13-6:6 

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What Does the Bible Say? 

Often our biblical responsibility when dealing with someone who has hurt us can be blurry. When this happens, we might mistakenly carry another person’s responsibility inside the process, which can prevent real reconciliation and is NEVER a permanent solution to the healing we all long for. Listen to today’s podcast and gain clarity on what is and is not your role inside relationships where there has been an offense. Here is the truth: awareness of what is and is not your biblical responsibility permits you to pause, draw boundaries and deal with your offender with patience, wisdom, and love. Trusting God’s process does not guarantee reconciliation but makes room for the Lord to bring authentic and healthy restoration. Listen to all episodes of our summer podcast series by subscribing to the Live Treasured Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Our verses for this week are Galatians 6:1-6.

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What Is the Difference Between Reconciliation and Forgiveness?

WATCH OUT! Is someone trying to rush you into reconciliation, using religious rhetoric or even scripture?

Perhaps they have said, “But the Bible says you are not supposed to judge me, and you should forgive me.” OR, “Well, you know what the Bible says about reconciliation.” Or maybe “I thought you said you were a Christian. Let me read this verse to you…“

You know, treasured one, religious rhetoric or scripture can be a powerful tool to push premature reconciliation that is not God’s intention for you. Especially when you are confused with your biblical responsibility, you might give in to the pressure and offer premature, often artificial reconciliation. Abusers and offenders love this strategy to relieve their guilt by putting it on YOU. But this is not God’s way.  

Rushing reconciliation when not ready prevents true restoration. Listen this week as we continue in our summer series What Does It Mean to Forgive? Listen to all episodes in this series by subscribing to the Live Treasured Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Our verses for this week are Genesis 42:1-18, Hebrews 9, 1 John 1:9.

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What Does the Bible Say About Forgiving Others?

Has someone offended or hurt you, and the wound is still occupying mental real-estate in your heart because you can’t seem to forgive and let it go? Many women want to do right by God and forgive, but they struggle with what it means to forgive. Resources and sermons tell us to forgive, but they don’t define it. The truth is, forgiveness is a complex topic that is often oversimplified, creating more confusion, and preventing us from applying God’s remedy to heal our wounds. But when you carefully consider the entire counsel of God, you can find clarity to the complexity of forgiveness, equipping you with powerful wisdom to treat the wound God’s way and get your freedom back! Diving deep into the Word this summer to discover what it means to forgive is the goal of our summer podcast series. Listen each week this summer and gain God’s wisdom to handle offense and heal your hearts. It’s time to move forward! ONWARD! (Want more? Read Genesis 37 and 39-41)

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